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Experiencing Flamenco in Madrid

I didn’t know what to expect in Madrid. This was my second international solo trip and rather than attempt to see multiple countries like I did before I opted to see what one city had to offer. I had an idea of what I wanted to do but for this trip I challenged myself to try trainstationsomething unplanned.

I decided on a flamenco show and on my way out of the hotel I met a girl from Majorca, a Spanish island in the Mediterranean.   She was in Madrid for the weekend visiting friends and was helpful with getting me to the train station. Little I knew then that she would later influence where I’d go on my next vacation!  We chatted a bit on the train, then she got off to meet her friends and then next I got off to see what Madrid’s nightlife had to offer.

I typically avoid nightlife if I’m by myself and even more-so if I’m traveling. This was a big step for me because the show I chose was a midnight performance.  The trains stop running at midnight.

The “Tablaos”  for the flamenco show, is one of the many dotted around the city–Casa Patas. I later learned that Casa Patas is also a flamenco school and the home of the flamenco foundation. I grabbed a seat at the bar and nursed a CasaPatascouple glasses of beer with some tapas before the show. It was packed and in hindsight I should have gotten there earlier. Looking around you got this sense of authenticism about the place–unpretentious, homey. It wasn’t a small place, but you could feel that you were packed into a room full of history, culture and tons of energy.

At Casa Pata
At Casa Pata. At the bar about to go in to the show.

At showtime you are moved to small room in the back of the restaurant. It was practically filled by the time I got there, so I ended up in the back. In the front, a small stage was set up with instruments bathed in tinted red lighting and with the intimate setting, the mood was set for the show. You could feel the sense of expectation in the room and although I could barely those around me you got a sense that there were a lot of tourists but with some locals mixed in. I talked briefly with a few locals next to me in the back.

I had never seen a flamenco show before so I was surprised when I got totally swept up by the performance. The music pulsed with so much energy I could feel it under my skin. It was intense. I caught myself holding my breath a few times during the dance performances because of the passion, the storytelling–very heart wrenching yet beautiful, and you can’t wait to see how it ends.

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The musicians, vocalists and dancers combined created this almost trance like atmosphere that when 3 hours flew by I couldn’t believe it was over. We got a bonus performance at the end of our show. At around 3:00 am this little flamenco dancer in training came on and gave us a brief performance.

There was nothing touristy about this experience. For a but a moment these performers gave us a piece of them that you could see was not given up easily.  There was a lot of sweat put into each movement, each strumming, each telling and as the receiver, you took from them, demanded even, then took some more.

I was slightly worried to be leaving a show at 3:00 am in the morning with no means to get back to the hotel but the minute I stepped out of the restaurant you saw people milling about like it was daylight and there were taxis readily available.  In no time I was back at my hotel.  I can’t remember how much it cost and that is a good thing because that means it wasn’t much!

If you are ever in Madrid, this is a must-see performance.  You won’t be disappointed.

“Doing” Without a Plus One. The First Big Trip.

My first big “doing” without a plus one was my first international vacation in 2006. London-Paris-Brussels.

My mother thought I was crazy.   Co-workers who learned of my trip mentioned words, like brave, inspired, or they gave me that uncertain look, with follow-up questions:  Are you sure? By yourself?  What will you do?  Who will you talk to?  Are you going to eat at a restaurant by yourself?

Back then I wasn’t even thinking along those lines.  All I wanted to do was explore–to see what’s out there.  To learn new things, have new experiences and I did–without a plus one.

You might be thinking, of course you can do this by yourself. You’re outgoing, you’re the life of the party, or I may just start the party wherever I go. But no.  Not really.  I can hang with the best of them. I can talk up a storm–sometimes. But really what I feel on the inside whenever I venture out alone gave me insight into truly who I am.

I forced myself to do that trip back in 2006 and have been doing a solo trip almost every year since. But it didn’t just stop at trips.  I went to movies, concerts and restaurants.  The key was I ventured out solo.  I learned to love my own company. I learned to form my own opinions. I learned to see my surroundings unhindered by a second opinion and then learned a lot by myself.

So to the big question:  What’s it like going solo?
First, you have to plan.  In 2006, going to London-Paris-Brussels wasn’t like going on a beach trip. There was no lazing at the beach all day and reading a book.  I had to figure out what I wanted to do in each of these cities.  How do I get from the airport to the hotel?  Or better yet, what hotel was good enough without breaking the bank?  Reading reviews for each hotel and weighing the pros and cons before hitting the ‘buy’ button helped.

It was my first big trip, so I kept it simple–I booked a hotel and airfare package.  Doing the package helped me see the hotel options available and the locations of these hotels. Knowing the hotel options made me see what was nearby each hotel. I could then figure out what I wanted to see and choose the best hotel to see as much as I wanted.

I started with the basic hop-on-hop off tou2006_paris photors to get my bearings around each city. I also researched the quickest way to move around. All these cities had a train system with maps, so I researched online and downloaded train maps. With basic tours and maps all done I looked to see what area was popular in each city and then crossed checked it against the train maps to figure out how to get there from my hotel.

Photo taken in Paris.  I was pulled into this cafe after getting off the hop on/off tour by the guy on the right. He pulled me  around the bar and one of his customers (guy on the left) was pulled into the photo with me. I was hysterical. I hung out with them for a few hours.

You can’t plan everything though. My first trip took an unexpected turn–in a great way–when I met these people in this photo in Paris.

Were all my trips like this?  No. But I did meet more people along the way.

Get out there and explore. You don’t have to do a big  trip.  It can be to that restaurant you’ve been dying to try out or that play you’ve been meaning to see. Just have a plan to do something on your own.

After doing it come back and tell me about it. What you do and how you do it will help someone else take that leap to hanging out without a plus one.